Friday, August 4, 2017

Friday, does it pay to have savings?

     I am starting to think it does not pay to have money saved up as there is a little money sucker fairy that lives to come and take it.  Our sprinkling system (it is always water with us) has developed a crack in a many pipe leading off the city line and has to be dug up and replaced.  The part alone is $800.00 let alone the labor to dig it up.  By hand if course.  Hub's is out working on it, but we all know how slow he is, and I am just grateful he is trying at least.  So the money I saved will be gone and I will have to start over.  WAAAAAHHHH!!!!!. 

     Okay lecture me now on how this is a blessing and this is the way it should be.  But why? Why can't it just stay in there for a month or a day or a year?  Why?

     Okay I am over that, I could keep going for a long while but I have learned it won't change anything.  I worked way to darned hard yesterday and my back is killing me.  My lower right side has a stiff knife in it, and I am going to try and stretch it out after this post.

    I did get 4 pasta dishes made yesterday, large pan of lasagna, large pan of stuffed shells, large pan of manicotti, and one large pan of mixed manicotti, and shells.  I made three loaves of homemade french bread, and used up the broccoli in fridge to make a broccoli salad.  Also used up the old apples to make two apple cobblers.  Hubs will be fed while I am gone and my friend got a great meal.  I also shredded an over grown zucchini to make a cake but ran out of steam so I froze it for later. I was able  to freeze two large pans of pasta for later.

     I will be canning tomatoes when I get home from this weekend.  I have only done a minimal of sewing, but the phone has rung off the hook with new business which I have put off until next week.

     Mom has been awful.  That is the only way I can put it nicely.  She is very mad at me and I really jumped on her and was very over the top firm and nasty about it.  Something I rarely do as I have too much respect for my mother and think it is wrong, but her undermining ways and favoritism to others who care little for her just gets to me.  She will do anything for attention.  Believe me I pay attention to her all  the time.  She does not want my attention she wants other and that is fine just don't start taking back things that are mine. Thank goodness I have my sister to help me.  We are on board together through her fits.

     Her dementia is getting so bad and she is very cranky when she does not get her way.  This is so hard on me, this whole process is much harder than I thought it would be. I keep wondering what I am supposed to learn from it.  To be more patient, or kind, or giving?  To learn to stand up for myself?  I just don't know, but it is very, very hard.

     The neighbors have got  bad leak in their water line which cannot be fixed until next week so we are running a hose out to their house so they can flush toilets and cook.  They have a 5 month old baby, so they can do laundry over here.  I feel for them as that is a very expensive fix and they just bought that house.

     Hubs must water the garden and everything by hand right now until the sprinkler is fixed.  What a chore.  We are so spoiled with convenience.

Well I am of to storm the castle if my back will let me.

Have a great and productive day!

Kim
     

14 comments:

  1. No, it is not "a blessing and just how it should be"! Who are the delusional people who say this? I have a few who tried to say this to me, and will never say that to me again. I don't even care if they never speak to me again!!!

    Yes, I have thought that every dollar I can save is eaten up by some misfortune. You have every right to wonder why you save. But, this would have probably happened anyway. Wouldn't it be great to spend spend spend so we would never have emergencies.

    Imagine having a five-month-old baby and no water...gah, makes me crazy.

    Is your mother part of the problem with your back? Maybe you could take her on tours of homes for the elderly. It is good you have your sister!

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    1. Our water problem is fixed, no bill yet. Our neighbors problem is still not fixed, and mom is at sisters but comes home today!

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  2. You got a TON of stuff done, so congrats! Baking/cooking is really time consuming, once you factor in all of the prep & cleanup. And, I don't have any great words of wisdom on your mom, but just want to say that I think it's normal to lose it. You're doing your best in a very difficult situation, and we all lose it sometimes. Stay the course, my friend.

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    1. I came home with extra people so the large casseroles in the freezer are so handy. thanks for the encouragement.

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  3. Hang in there - some day when your mom is no longer with you, you will have ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS! None! Reading your challenges with your mom encourages me in having/showing patience in dealing with both of my parents. The struggle is real! :-)

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    1. Thank you, I hope so, this is very hard.

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  4. Oh heck Kim! Buy a plane ticket and send her to me for awhile. No...wait.....don't do that. I hope she wasn't worse for us being there. 8-(

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    1. No she just got on a rip about something.

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  5. God Bless you for taking care of your Mom. I miss mine every day and you will too after she is gone.

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    1. I know and I feel guilty complaining. Thanks for the thoughts.

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  6. None of my business really, but is your mom on any kind of mood stabilizer medication? Something to think about if you think she would take it. I am in a situation with family members that leave me frustrated and hurt quite often. I pray sometimes and ask God "why" does it have to be this way???? I don't know the answer either.

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    1. She is on an anti depressant. We had her start taking one at Christmas and it helped so much. This is dementia and just the fact that she is a brat. I too ask Heavenly father what am I to learn from this?

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  7. This definitely qualifies as a crappy day. :( Hang in there.

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    1. Have not gotten the bill yet, I will just keep on plugging along.

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